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Spring Break
Ok...This was brought up over in the other thread...but I'm kinda shocked by how many of you aren't letting your college kids go on spring break to the beach. Is it because they are farther away than we were- at Auburn?
I'm not trying to be insulting by any means, and respect reasons like cost, ect, but we never had problems with friends not being able to go. Please enlighten me.
So question is. Spring break...Yes or No and if No then when will they be old enough?"Let's face it: We live in state infested with rubes and rednecks, particularly among Alabama football fans."- Paul Finebaum
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Will is only 13, so he has a few years,but here are my thoughts...
I think the partying game has significantly changed alot in the past 10-15 years. There is an "ick" factor that wasn't around as much when we were spring breaking in the early 1980's. All it took for me to see was to watch a few of the spring break MTV shows- where did these gross people come from? I would hope to God my kids didn't go around looking or acting like K-Fed or Britney, and that seems to be the level that many of the kids aspire to reach. Why everyone has to top each other in bad behavior, I have no idea. But it seems to be a popular contest these days. Of course now it is popular to go to Mexico or the Caribbean, where anything goes. And we have seen how that one ends.
What happened to drinking beer on the beach? Maybe going to a bar, and wearing clothes, not a thong hanging out? Or a guy waering a t-shirt that doesn't say something about a Big Johnson? Nice. Spring Break has become more like Freak-nik or KY Derby cruising ( a Freaknik wannabe that is out of hand).
I already told Will that I would rent a house in Grayton big enough for all of his friends. But Bdarg and I will be there. And maybe some of the friend's parents, if they are fun. I want my kid alive at the end of the week. I know a couple parents that do this, and everyone has a great time, because they are all parents that the kids want to be around. I hope we are like that too.
I was a wild child and maybe that is why I am over-protective now. But when you start to think of the things you did when you were younger, then consider that it is possible that your kid will do all that and worse stuff now, you have to plan ahead.
The alternative Spring Break on another thread sounds wonderful. I hope my kids are interested.
Crap. I am old.
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We went a couple of years due to the fact that we were too lazy to figure anything else out. We stayed at the Chateau Motel on the strip. It was insane. Pure debautchery. The first run we had down there we got busted within 2 hours of being there. Our friends next door got all their booze poured out that we stopped in Troy to have her youth minister buy for us. The experience was so trasy and so gross and so not us...but so much fun.
Originally Posted by Kimmifunn
What you did on Spring Break at the Chateau Motel, kimmifunn, is what my darling son is quite capable of doing in Seagrove Beach at our condo!
Plus, if you saw what his room at home looks like, AND his room at college, you'd say NO, too. It's enough to give anyone heart attacks. :oops:Dolce far niente
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i was reading in one of the 10,000 magazines i get monthly about how kids today are drinking so much they are being hospitalized or worse for alcohol poisoning. i guess it is a lot more common than people realize, and if i was a parent that would scare me to death. i know i am naive about stuff like that but i always figured alcohol poisoning happened to winos, i had no clue how prevalent it is in teens !
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My oldest broke me in well. Her first year she wanted to go to Key West, so I said pay for it and you can.(She wasn't working at the time.) Well she found 5 friends, they shared a hotel room and had a blast. What I learned from her is this, she will not act any differently on Spring Break than she normally does. If they want to get drunk and screw, that is what they will do.....wherever they are. She went on trips the next three years and had good times. My youngest just wants to rest for a while and we are going to SoWal for a couple days. The values taught at home will go with them for life. Just remind them of the dangers and they will make good choices. Most of the things on tv are the extreme behaviors anyway, not the norm.
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Well, my son is an 18 yo senior in high school. What I can't fathom is so many parents letting their high school seniors go on spring break alone. I guess next year when he is in college, it will be a different story, but until then, NO, NO, NO. As I said on the other thread, we would be more than happy to take him and other boys. Hey, I would be willing to waive curfew for the week. I think that is generous (enough).
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Been there and done that, more than once, and fortunately survived to not do it again. Consuming one litre of straight Rum in less than five minutes is enough to do some serious damage to a 15 yr old like I once was. Fortunately, by the time I reached college age, I no longer had the desire to drink so much in one sitting. Just as I told Steele Mama that there is not much difference in adding a zero to the end of a number to change it greatly, the same can be said for alcohol consumption. If I had consumed just one additional half litre of Rum on that particular night, I may not be typing today. After one is wasted, he cannot tell the difference between the on and off switch. The two become one without difference.
Originally Posted by audie
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02-09-2006, 06:18 PM #8
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Re: Spring Break
I let my daughter and her friends use our beach house starting her freshman year in college. I mean, she lived in Boston; if I couldn't trust her at the beach, I couldn't trust her in Boston. I might as well make her live at home and go to the local college! Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it), she only had one friend at MIT who "did" spring break. Everyone else stayed in Cambridge/Boston and caught up on their studying. How weird is that?
Originally Posted by Kimmifunn
Her sophomore year they got a bit rowdy - neighbors complained - Silly String all over the pool deck and pool full of beer cans. So this year (junior year) I have laid down the law. If they don't keep the house as I expect it to be cared for (and I will drive down at the end of the week and check it out) and if they bother neighbors, next year they'll be paying for their own motel rooms for spring break. I think they'll act appropriately. Momma didn't raise no fool!
As an aside, "back in the day" when I was an undergraduate at Tulane, I just went to the beach with my friends. My mother had no clue when my spring break was. There wasn't the Internet then for parents to check up on our holiday schedules, our course websites, etc., etc. I would just tell Mom that my last exam was two days later than it really was, so she'd make airline reservations for me from NOLA to ATL on that day, and my friends and I would stay in NOLA and party. I studied hard; I played hard. That's the way Tulane kids rolled when I was there.
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We're at least 5 years away from it, so this is just projection on my part:
Originally Posted by Kimmifunn
Not sure, not until college, won't pay for it.L'il Pea #2: Mom, do I have abs?
L'il Pea #4: You have one.
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Ok. Got it. Dbuck...didn't realize yours was in HS. Totally makes sense. We were always supervised in high school. In college our parents just paid for it. I guess they didn't think about it since everyone else's parents paid for it. Or we were just brats who threw a fit if they said no.
Everyone is totally reasonable.
I'm with you BR...If you can trust them off at school they should be able to handle it. But with all the people- like Smiley J- who guzzle a gallon of rum, I can see where the concern lies."Let's face it: We live in state infested with rubes and rednecks, particularly among Alabama football fans."- Paul Finebaum
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Re: Spring Break
I'm not saying she would, but if she'd guzzle a gallon of rum at the beach, she'd do it in Boston or Atlanta or wherever.
Originally Posted by Kimmifunn
Don't parents remember what they did on college campuses? For me, going to college was one continuous spring break (after I studied - had to keep those A's), so what's the difference between college parties and spring break, between flooding the basement of the ∑AE house at Tulane with grain alcohol and drinking it while swimming in it vs spring break at Panama City Beach?
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I think the difference would be that you were in a somewhat closed environment. No strangers, weirdos, etc. You were with people you knew, or the people you were with knew them.
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The world is a much scarier place now. That's a fact. I would also add, because of that many kids are over protected and don't have a lot of "street sense".
Which community along 30A shall we pillage this evening?....gttbm

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02-09-2006, 08:09 PM #14
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My ex-rental agency (who shall remain nameless for now) put 12 Auburn freshmen (7 girls, 5 boys) in my house for spring break 2 years ago this March. It was a really bad scene. I was there on the weekend before check-in and on the Saturday of check-out. The parent who paid for the week insisted that I just wanted him to pay for repairs that were already needed (in a 1 year old house). I continued to find damage for a couple of months. I didn't know they had broken my sofa bed until I tried to use it a couple of months later. I also received a $250 water bill (they wrote in the guest book that they loved the nice big bathtub).
I'm sure there are some well-behaved college kids out there, but I won't even take the chance on them......I've been stung!!
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You have a point, but having to take public transportation in Boston (because rental for a spot in a parking garage is outrageous and parking at a shopping area can cost almost $20 an hour) and having to deal with all of the sketchy people from halfway houses hanging out in downtown Atlanta is much scarier to me that PCB.
Originally Posted by Sueshore
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I heard about that...a couple years ago there was a whole crew of Auburn kids who came down and ripped up a few houses.
Originally Posted by nancy jean
"Let's face it: We live in state infested with rubes and rednecks, particularly among Alabama football fans."- Paul Finebaum
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when we were down 2 years ago, a group of college kids had rented a house in the area we were in. i think a parent or someone rented it for them actually because they were all on the beach and the guy said i will see you sunday and he left never to be seen again. these kids were smoking pot and doing beer funnels and who knows what else right in front of us like we weren't there. i can't imagine what the house looked like, i was gonna call the rental agency, but there wasn't a sign or anything on the house so i didn't know who to call. we are far from being prudes, but this made us pretty uncomfortable. thank god they came in on friday and left on sunday.
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Re: Spring Break
Don't get me wrong, I would never rent to a group of college students. I thought we were talking about allowing our own kids to go on spring break.
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I agree. But, looking back I was very stupid at 15, 16, 17, 18 and sometimes now at 40. I think the world is safer now, due to DNA testing. The kids today are smarter in ways we weren't.. I guess, it's how you look at it.
Originally Posted by Sueshore
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Nancy Jean, I think the kids from your house left and descended upon ours. There were several large houses at Grayton where this happened as they were evicted, one after another. Ours were, too. Grayton Beach seems to have been targeted for spring breakers two years ago. They all lost their rent and the deposits with the evictions, so hopefully some Mom and Dad rec'd an expensive lesson. The following year, our rental company allowed in a group of 20 high school graduates with no parent, just an unrelated "chaperone" who was never there no matter what time we called the house. This guy bragged to our housekeeper that he was employed by the same agency that provided some of the chaperones for the ill-fated Aruba trip, when the lovely young Birmingham woman disappeared. He bought beer for the kids to have a big beer party, and we had kids diving off the third floor offset deck of our house into the swimming pool (max. depth of 9 ft.). Just a tragedy waiting to happen, all around.
It is imperative that owners hold the rental companies accountable for this kind of oversight or lack of attention. We told ours that if this ever happened again, they were toast and that we'd hold them responsible. Now for the period during March/April, we require that parents sign a release form that indicates how many adults and how many minors (and their ages) will occupy the house. Only after we see this form signed and returned do we agree that they can rent. And I make calls before and during the stay. We also have a family member who lives nearby check regularly on the house during these periods. If we ever catch that again, we have vowed to call the County Sheriff and have every underaged person in the house hauled off to jail. It is as illegal to serve minors alcohol in a private home as it is in a bar, after all. If parents can't find the time to accompany their kids on a spring break holiday, I figure they can burn up Highway 331 to bail them out of jail.
While this sounds very harsh, the truth is that many parents refuse to believe that their little angels could drink to excess or intentionally damage someone else's property (not to mention risking their own lives). The best of kids will be effected by peer pressure, especially in a setting that is fueled by high spirits after the stress of exams and coupled with excessive drinking. The reality check comes too late, when a parent is called to the ER at 3 a.m. to find an alcohol-poisoned child who is on a ventilator in the ICU (or worse).
I honestly think kids were better off when their folks assumed they were up to no good or were ninnies, and we had to work hard to prove them wrong! I don't think the world or human nature has really changed all that much (alchol and drugs and sex were always around), but some of today's parents want to be pals with their kids rather than parents who help them set boundaries. California is particularly permissive in this way, it seems. The irony in this is that kids will grow up to criticize their parents for not being stricter. If I hear one more parent say, "The kids are my buds," I'm going to
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Originally Posted by Dabell
Did I miss something? So now we can tell who the father is? Now we can prove that a particular person was involved or at a crime?
Please, help me learn why we are safer now. When I was growing up, we used to drink alcohol, and that was not necessarily safe or good. I cannot tell you how fortunate I am to be alive today. Today, kids are snorting cocaine, smoking crack, smoking pot, doing meth, taking extacy, huffing Nitrous Oxide, and much, much more. Safer? I would not say so. Smarter? perhaps, but that is not necessary safer. With the internet, kids today can learn how to grow good pot, psycodelic mushrooms, make meth, build Potato Canons, etc. Kids are also able to easily access any kind of porn with the click of a mouse. I don't know that the world is any less safe than it was when I was in college, but it sure is not safer in my opinion.
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Boy, are you right about that. I won't repeat what everyone has already said on this thread. But, I will agree with the fact that if YOU"VE done it, then you already know what to expect. I am terrified of what my son might do or even just be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Someone said on this thread, it's the values that are learned at home and you must hope (& pray) for the best. I am no prude and I have certainly seen it all. It just makes me sick to think about what it will be like. It's the alcohol and drugs that worry me the most. Not the transients, or bums, or the street life, or gang activity. That's in my son's high school every day already.
Originally Posted by jdarg
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JohnRudy,
I think you said it well. As parents, you must teach your kids morals, principles, ethics, proper behavior, etc. At some point, you have to let your kids test their own ideas and learn on their own, becoming an independent and free thinker, otherwise, they never learn to think for themselves. If your highschool kid does anything on his or her own, I encourage to give them some freedom and make their own choices. Before you do so, sit down and talk with them, not preaching at them, and let them know that you love them and that you respect and trust them enough to make their own decisions and choices. Tell them of your fear of how life would be without them. You may not realize it, but your children make plenty of real world life decisions daily, so why not go ahead and let them know that you trust them to choose wisely. It is their life at risk, not yours.
That said, when I get kids, they are not leaving the house until they are 26.
Just kidding. 
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The last thing I say to him as he's getting out of the car to go somewhere funn, I always say, "Collin, just do the right thing." He always nods and says, "I know." Just those 4 or 5 words says "I trust you." So far, so good.
Originally Posted by Smiling JOe
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Yeah... You need to have trust in your kid. Like it or not, if your kid wants to try something , he/she will, with or without your permission.
Originally Posted by Johnrudy
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02-11-2006, 07:32 AM #26
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I agree with you all about giving the kids a chance to test their own ideas, etc. My kids are "old" now, and did some testing of their own...but it was their own....I did not foot the bill so they could express themselves. Also, going somewhere on spring break was not a god-given right then. Lucky for me I guess.
Some of todays parents think that if they pay for the vacation then the kids become someone else's responsibility. I was told that his little girl wouldn't do any of things that we had evidence of.
Now I have grandchildren that are fast approaching those "trying" years. Believe me, I won't even let them have spring break at my house without me or a parent when the time comes...and I AM their buddy. My grandkids and I have a natural bond (as I've told my kids)....we have a common enemy...their parents!!
Bonus: Now that my kids are "30 something" I do get to be their friend
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When you "get" kids?? Like a cold??
Originally Posted by Smiling JOe
When you HAVE kids SJ
That said, I agree with you, there are 2 schools of thought, and I am with you, at some point you have to trust your kids to make good decisions, and they are going to do things sooner or later with out your permission, so if you help them and teach them early on, they will be prepared to make good choices and have the strength of their convictions (while still having funn)!~~Dream like you will live forever....Live like you will die tomorrow~~
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Yes, things are very different with adult children than when they are teenagers. What I am referring to is the situation where a parent of a teen basically allows their kid to do anything they wish, just to keep the child from feeling angry or resentful toward the parent. Some people are afraid of their own children. I have seen children manipulate the parents this way, only to turn around and criticize them later for not being stricter, more consistent, etc. And usually, this happens when a parent wants so desperately to trust their kid unequivocably. My point is that practically any teenager can go astray when peer pressure kicks in and there are no adults around to temper things.
Guess I got a little hot on this subject, as the spring break time approaches. It is very frustrating to be over 3,000 miles away and get a call that your house has been trashed by a bunch of unsupervised kids, or that a beer party is going on in your pool and the pool is so filled with people that you cannot see its water surface. Our inclination is to block off the house for those dates, but we don't want to preclude nice families or well-behaved and well attended groups of kids having a nice break during the spring.
As with most situations, a few mistakes end up setting the threshhold for everyone else.
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Not all kids are "had" by their parents.
Originally Posted by Allifunn
Some are adopted or fostered.
...and I think that only women "have" kids anyway. Men "get" kids.

...and Donna, for the reasons you state, if I owned a rental house, it would be "booked" by myself during Spring Break. I would rather have a house full of wild dogs.
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Originally Posted by Smiling JOe
I have a couple dogs to contribute- what time can I drop them off??
Smiling JOe's Doggie SPring Break- "Dogs Gone Wild"...
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Show us your teets!
Originally Posted by jdarg
"Let's face it: We live in state infested with rubes and rednecks, particularly among Alabama football fans."- Paul Finebaum
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They want you to throw them some beads first!
Originally Posted by Kimmifunn
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somewhere in there, men contribute to the "having " of the kids
Originally Posted by Smiling JOe
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Believe me...My ex gave birth almost as much as I did!!! He fed me ice chips till his arm fell off!!! He struggled through the first birth like a champ..I commend him
Originally Posted by Smiling JOe
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A friend of mine recently had a colonoscopy and was on the couch for a week afterwards. I went to visit and was asking her about her pain and the general details of the surgery. She was not looking too healthy. Her husband responds to my question, "oh, it wasn't bad at all." She could have taken him out with nothing more than the look in her eyes.
Originally Posted by Allifunn
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i've always hated when men say "we're pregnant" - no we are not, the woman is pregnant. just a pet peeve of mine, but since i am child-free as my sis says, i probably don't know what i'm talking about !
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Originally Posted by Smiling JOe
I've heard of owners of beach houses who do not rent during the entire spring break (2 months or so) season because of the kids who have made their way to South Walton over the last several years. makes sense to me, although this can be a pretty big revenue loss.
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Originally Posted by audie
Audie, I have kids and it peeves me, too. I'd have gladly done time-share with my husband when I was pregnant but obviously such a thing doesn't exist. (Duh) So this business of being magnanimous with the terminology and pretending to be jointly pregnant is just a crock of sh**. There's no "we're" about it.
Dolce far niente
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Originally Posted by Smiling JOe
...a week???? Cover your eyes if you get squeamish....I'm going in next week for the top and bottom scopes!!! I may be on the sofa for a month!!!
Which community along 30A shall we pillage this evening?....gttbm

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Originally Posted by Sueshore
Hey, Miss kitty, as long as you're fixed up for the trip to SoWal in April....
Dolce far niente
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Poor Mr. Kitty...I can whine real good!!! You know me...I'll be just fine when it's time to go to SoWal!
Originally Posted by Mermaid
Which community along 30A shall we pillage this evening?....gttbm

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I'm hoping SJ meant a colostomy instead of a colonoscopy, 'cause if she had a colonoscopy somebody has beening lying to me. I was just getting ready to schedule a colonoscopy, now I'm skeered.
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It could not have been a colonoscopy...unless they had to remove alot of pollops..I had one...and went dancing that night
Originally Posted by Smiling JOe
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Bless you for saying that. My husband keeps telling me "nothing to it."
Originally Posted by Allifunn
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Originally Posted by Mermaid
thank you mer!
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the worst part was the night before...having to drink 40 gallons of draino
Originally Posted by dbuck
I used a wine glass to make seem more glamarous
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Originally Posted by Kimmifunn
haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
love it. Dawgs gone wild showing teets.....
someone needs to submit this to SNL.
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oh you are killing me. I have to remember that trick.. My draino number is coming up soon too!
Originally Posted by Allifunn
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