Teenagers 19 and 20 What Is Available?

[stephjabo]

Hi, I have been monitoring this site for some time and have been to Seagrove several times. However, not with three teenage boys! What is available for them to do at night. They would like to be able to hang out, go meet girls and they definitely have to be able to walk to whereever they are going. I am looking for any suggestions. We are staying at Beachcrest Aug. 5th to the 12th. They think they can hang in bars if they don't drink; which I have assured them they can't even thought I don't really know. So what is the story and where can I steer them? I definitely need help in this area!;-)

[kurt]

There are no bars within walking distance of Beachcrest. Unless you count a few restaurant bars where the only teenage girls are with their families or waiting tables.

Steer them towards astronomy. The stars are fabulous on the beach at night. Also, marine biology is a good direction.

Fishing, biking, kayaking, swimming, and hiking should wear them out during the day. If not they can walk down to Seaside where teens are usually sober. Younger teens love to hang out around the Central Square. Older teens may also but are much better at pretending to be bored. They will be wiped out when they get back because it is a pretty good walk.

I've never heard of 19 and 20 year-olds that have trouble finding alcohol inside or outside of bars.

[Mermaid]

We'll be down to the beach on either the 4th or the 5th; staying until the 8th or 9th, so that overlaps with your trip. Our 17 year old daughter and 19 year old son are coming with us, though the latter changes his mind daily about whether he wants to be caught dead vacationing with his family. ;-) Our condo is nearby the one you're staying at, so if your bunch wants hang with our two, that's fine. Just PM me.

BTW, what Kurt says about teens is true. I wish I didn't know that!!!

[steeleing1]

They can hang out at places like Red Bar, Pandora's, Blue Orleans and the Seabar without worrying about being underage (if they're not trying to drink). But 331 and Bud & Alley's begin carding after 10pm, I think. I'm sure they'll find SOMETHING to do.

[Smiling JOe]

I find most of the cute 19 and 20 year old girls at...
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:eek: Just kidding! Gotcha!

Ditto Kurt and Steeleing1. If they want to hang out with girls in the evening (don't see many "ladies of the night"), they need to meet them in the daytime and plan to hook up, (aka hang out- although, both terms will probably put fear into every daddy of young girls) later in the evening.

[Johnrudy]

I find most of the cute 19 and 20 year old girls at...
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:eek: Just kidding! Gotcha!

Ditto Kurt and Steeleing1. If they want to hang out with girls in the evening (don't see many "ladies of the night"), they need to meet them in the daytime and plan to hook up (aka hang out- although, both terms will probably put fear into every daddy of young girls) later in the evening.
yeah, don't say hook-up.

[stephjabo]

yeah, don't say hook-up.
I forget that that kids language has different meanings to different people. I am a social worker with teenagers and have become immune to the term; I tend to interpret meaning. By hooking up, I and (hopefully) they meant people to meet and hang out with. Since I work with teenagers, I am especially vigilant regarding inappropriate behavior..... Thanks for reminding me of the language. Steph

[Biff]

He He !!!!!!!!

Good one S.J. :lolabove:


I find most of the cute 19 and 20 year old girls at...
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:eek: Just kidding! Gotcha!

Ditto Kurt and Steeleing1. If they want to hang out with girls in the evening (don't see many "ladies of the night"), they need to meet them in the daytime and plan to hook up, (aka hang out- although, both terms will probably put fear into every daddy of young girls) later in the evening.

[Miss Kitty]

They could always hook up with some fish.

[stephjabo]

They could always hook up with some fish.
I can only hope. The best case scenario is that they exhaust themselves, walk a lot, find no females, do nothing foolish and watch a movie in the square at Seaside. I am going to be optimistic... and yes I am sure they will try to pull some stuff over on my husband and I. Can't decide if it would have been better for us to let the child go to Spring Break with a group of college kids or this with us. What you don't know, doesn't hurt you! I'll let you know afterwords... If I had only known my parent's agony.

[Beach Runner]

We've had a thread on this before. Try http://www.sowal.com/bb/showthread.php?t=934 .

[Smiling JOe]

From where do you think the term, "hanging out" originated? It is now very common and mentioned without thought, but think about it. :eek:

[stephjabo]

From where do you think the term, "hanging out" originated? It is now very common and mentioned without thought, but think about it. :eek:
I have no idea but could take some guesses. Good one. If you tell me I'll use it with the kids I work with; that seems to be popular verbage among teens "for doing nothing I want to tell you about and don't bother asking!!!!"

[Mermaid]

From where do you think the term, "hanging out" originated? It is now very common and mentioned without thought, but think about it. :eek:

I thought the same as you so I just asked my daughter if "hook up" and "hang out" were the same and she said no. In this Midwestern city, it can mean anything from smooching to the leg wrangling that Merman and I stumbled upon during a moonlight walk from Seaside one night under a cloudy sky (the young lovers were very surprised to have two old codgers almost trip over their naked butts :oops:). It depends on context and who it is who is being discussed as to what exactly it means, though it never is quite as innocent as "hanging out."

I think Sueshore's onto something. It should be about catching fish!!

[Rita]

............they need to meet them in the daytime and plan to hook up.......
http://i38.photobucket.com/albums/e129/gulfwindsway/The-Rules-of-Hooking-Up.jpg

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[Wu]

I can only hope. The best case scenario is that they exhaust themselves, walk a lot, find no females, do nothing foolish and watch a movie in the square at Seaside. I am going to be optimistic... and yes I am sure they will try to pull some stuff over on my husband and I. Can't decide if it would have been better for us to let the child go to Spring Break with a group of college kids or this with us. What you don't know, doesn't hurt you! I'll let you know afterwords... If I had only known my parent's agony.

In 1st post you lie to offspring and now you say you want to be ignorant of their actions. No wonder american youths are on path to oblivion. Please to not come to my neighborhood. :roll:

[Lady D]

:idontno: Wu, seeing as there is nothing referencing where your live in your profile, how could they possibly know where your neighborhood is to come there??? Teenagers like to hang out with others their age and need things to do other than stay in a condo the whole week. When we first came to Inlet Beach and went into PC Beach along the strip my son was 19. The traffic was bumper to bumper as it was 4th of July weekend. College age kids were out on balconies all along the strip. My son would have been very content to be let out to mingle with them and us pick him up hours later I am sure. Probably would have never found him either.

[Mango]

I think Sueshore's onto something. It should be about catching fish!!

right, or they might be catching something else. ;-)

[dbuck]

right, or they might be catching something else. ;-)

crabs? :idontno:

[Smiling JOe]

Or, maybe if have done a good job of parenting, the kids will gain some life experience by not controlling everything they do, and live to enjoy another day. Today, kids are allowed to join the military and legally kill other "kids" when they are 18, but you don't want them in a bar, even if they don't drink? Interesting. I think I understand what Wu is writing about.

[laurawood]

america has a lot of work to do to educate&protect the younger generation. Parents--- denial is NOT a beautiful thing. communication & acceptance ARE however.

[kurt]

america has a lot of work to do to educate&protect the younger generation. Parents--- denial is NOT a beautiful thing. communication & acceptance ARE however.

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[pokey]

While I ask this same question here several weeks ago, I found I didn't need any of the suggestions for my group. I had three 19 year old girls, my 22 year old son, and two 22 year old girls for a few days. I was concerned what the "kids" would do in the evenings. Well, they never left the house at night other than to go out to dinner with my husband and I! After dinner we all watched Season 1 of West Wing on DVD that my son brought with us! My husband has been watching the last year or two, but has never seen the earlier episodes in order; only in reruns every now and then. We would have dessert, curl up on the sofa and chairs (Ok, my husband ended up on the floor several nights as the kids called dibs on the furniture :floor: ) and watch usually 3 episodes a night. All the kids, and adults were very happy just chillin. Usually, one or two of us would fall asleep for a bit while watching, but we all had a great time.

I was surprised my son and his friends didn't hit the bars at night, but they were really content sitting around with us. Of course, we paid for everything and they didn't have to spend their money on beers :lol: We did do something really tacky-the night we went to The Red Bar we knew there would be a long wait; when is ther not a wait? We took our soft sided cooler filled with Corona Beers and lime, along with a large bag of goldfish and chips, and had out own little party outside while we waited! While the kids a first thought we were cheap, they realized that they hadn't spent a dime. :clap_1: It really was fun and the kids enjoyed!!

I think haven't dvd's works for the kids no matter if they are 2 or 20. I know my kids like to watch the same dvd over and over; after a day at the beach it is nice just to sit and relax!

While step said she told the kids they couldn't hang in bars and not drink-maybe she was concerned that her kids would drink while there so she was trying to avoid them hanging around a bar. Of course by telling them they can't be at the bars doesn't mean they won't try anyway.

[Biff]

Nothing like FAMILY time... Kudos pokey!!!!!!!!!! ;-) ;-)



While I ask this same question here several weeks ago, I found I didn't need any of the suggestions for my group. I had three 19 year old girls, my 22 year old son, and two 22 year old girls for a few days. I was concerned what the "kids" would do in the evenings. Well, they never left the house at night other than to go out to dinner with my husband and I! After dinner we all watched Season 1 of West Wing on DVD that my son brought with us! My husband has been watching the last year or two, but has never seen the earlier episodes in order; only in reruns every now and then. We would have dessert, curl up on the sofa and chairs (Ok, my husband ended up on the floor several nights as the kids called dibs on the furniture :floor: ) and watch usually 3 episodes a night. All the kids, and adults were very happy just chillin. Usually, one or two of us would fall asleep for a bit while watching, but we all had a great time.

I was surprised my son and his friends didn't hit the bars at night, but they were really content sitting around with us. Of course, we paid for everything and they didn't have to spend their money on beers :lol: We did do something really tacky-the night we went to The Red Bar we knew there would be a long wait; when is ther not a wait? We took our soft sided cooler filled with Corona Beers and lime, along with a large bag of goldfish and chips, and had out own little party outside while we waited! While the kids a first thought we were cheap, they realized that they hadn't spent a dime. :clap_1: It really was fun and the kids enjoyed!!

I think haven't dvd's works for the kids no matter if they are 2 or 20. I know my kids like to watch the same dvd over and over; after a day at the beach it is nice just to sit and relax!

While step said she told the kids they couldn't hang in bars and not drink-maybe she was concerned that her kids would drink while there so she was trying to avoid them hanging around a bar. Of course by telling them they can't be at the bars doesn't mean they won't try anyway.