Found Home In Sowal For Sons, Now Needing Household Items!

[Diane4145]

For those of you that helped with our SOWAL property search, we really appreciate it! :clap_1: :clap_1: :clap_1: Now, Russ and Blake are searching for misc. household items, to complete it. Specifically, a washer/dryer, that's reasonable and in good condition. Their mother is a believer in "letting other's eat that depreciation", so I'm confident that I'll find them! ;-) If anyone has any suggestions, I look forward to hearing from ya!

Thanks Everybody!

[jdarg]

Man- you are a good mom. Would you be mine???? Your boys are lucky!

[Miss Kitty]

Diane...you make me feel like I am in the Twilight Zone! Someone give this woman a W/D!!!! :cool:

[Miss Kitty]

Here it is Diane...I thought I had seen this before!!!

[pcbjen]

Nice and barely used Full size washer and dryer for sale.
King Size Bed for sale- sleeps great.
Dinette Set-Forrest Green Tile table
Beautiful White Goose Down Sofa
Misc other household items for sale.

All prices negotiable. Call 496-2550 or email me for more information or pictures.

[yippie]

Do you have photos of the sofa? If so, pleaes pm me with the price and photos. Thanx.

[Smiling JOe]

Diane, how are your "boys" going to ever provide for themselves if you arrange their life? :idontno: Mom's are great to have around to do things for a kid, until he or she turns about 17. At some point, you need to let go so that they can grow. ;-)

[Kimmifunn]

Diane, how are your "boys" going to ever provide for themselves if you arrange their life? :idontno: Mom's are great to have around to do things for a kid, until he or she turns about 17. At some point, you need to let go so that they can grow. ;-)

:lie:

[InletBchDweller]

ok either i have stepped back in time or some messages are missing from this thread????:idontno:


ok so now i see the post about the rollback, i am not time warping....

[Diane4145]

Diane, how are your "boys" going to ever provide for themselves if you arrange their life? :idontno: Mom's are great to have around to do things for a kid, until he or she turns about 17. At some point, you need to let go so that they can grow. ;-)

Yeah IBD, I was wondering where the posts went, from understanding people, re:my being there for my sons!:idontno: Geez, life's hard enough, without making issues about being there for others!:bang: Let's get a real problem!;-) I would do that for anyone, having a need! Kinda leaves me, a little disallusioned!:( If people don't want to help others, then don't! But don't put us down, for doing so!

[Diane4145]

My sons have all that they need now, for their home!

Thanks, people!

[InletBchDweller]

Diane, I am 30 something and my mom still helps me with things. She still buys me things and pampers me as if I was 16. I am an adult but love that my mom is here and is able to help me. I hope she is 90 and still does it, cuz I love her....:wub: I think you are great helping your boys out.

Diane, how are your "boys" going to ever provide for themselves if you arrange their life? :idontno: Mom's are great to have around to do things for a kid, until he or she turns about 17. At some point, you need to let go so that they can grow. ;-)

Yeah IBD, I was wondering where the posts went, from understanding people, re:my being there for my sons!:idontno: Geez, life's hard enough, without making issues about being there for others!:bang: Let's get a real problem!;-) I would do that for anyone, having a need! Kinda leaves me, a little disallusioned!:( If people don't want to help others, then don't! But don't put us down, for doing so!

[Diane4145]

Diane, I am 30 something and my mom still helps me with things. She still buys me things and pampers me as if I was 16. I am an adult but love that my mom is here and is able to help me. I hope she is 90 and still does it, cuz I love her....:wub: I think you are great helping your boys out.

Thanks, IBD! I'm glad to hear, that some agree with this! :clap_1: :clap_1: :clap_1:

PS:Luv your signature, so true! :floor: :floor: :floor:
"Men are like Slinky's - Good for nothing, but you can't help but smile when one falls down a flight of stairs!!!"

[Tootsie]

hey Diane:
don't be put off my our Uncle Smiling Joseph. He's the first one in line to do whatever is needed for others, every time. He just don't know about being a mama.

My dear Italian mama has always done every single thing she can for us, and then some, and she does this for everyone else in her life as well. Some moms can't stop doing for their children, their family and their friends, neighbors and even folks they barely know. I think this is a dying art. The art of true caring, selflessness and love.

Of course, the Italian mama also likes to tell us how to live our lives and expects us to "mind" no matter how old we are or how far away we may live. it's all good though.

[Mango]

Tootsie makes a good point that there are some selfless people in this world who will do anything to help anyone within their means.

I too come from an Italian family, and although it killed my mother to hold back at times, she later said that sometimes she decided NOT to step in and help because she wanted us to learn how to figure it out on our own, make our own mistakes and figure out our solutions.

I think that was probably what SJ was suggesting.

[Smiling JOe]

Tootsie makes a good point that there are some selfless people in this world who will do anything to help anyone within their means.

I too come from an Italian family, and although it killed my mother to hold back at times, she later said that sometimes she decided NOT to step in and help because she wanted us to learn how to figure it out on our own, make our own mistakes and figure out our solutions.

I think that was probably what SJ was suggesting.:D

[Diane4145]

Tootsie makes a good point that there are some selfless people in this world who will do anything to help anyone within their means.

I too come from an Italian family, and although it killed my mother to hold back at times, she later said that sometimes she decided NOT to step in and help because she wanted us to learn how to figure it out on our own, make our own mistakes and figure out our solutions.

I think that was probably what SJ was suggesting.

Mango, I appreciate your insight and do agree, that we need to let our children learn, from experiences and mistakes.:clap_1: Don't think for a second, that I'm unable to "detach with love". I can probably do that, better than most! ;-) What I felt was out of line re:SJ's comment, was his incinuating that they will never be able to handle anything, if I am EVER there for them!:nono1: That's a serious observation, coming from someone not knowing us. Bottom line is that I, or anyone for that matter, should do what THEY feel is right for them. Like I've said, if people want to help others and post a need on this board, they shouldn't be faulted for it. To each his own, rings a bell!:razz:

[sell30a]

Diane -

Having had personal experience with your son my opinion here is a little biased:

As you recall - I needed a lot cleared and posted that information to the message board here, you then called me, emailed me, and told me your son could definately do the job, was a good kid, hard worker etc, etc and arranged all the details of the job.

Then after I meet your son on site and give him a $500 deposit to pay for supplies to do the job he runs off with the money and never even starts the job! This makes you look bad. I would have to say this is clearly an example of a spoiled kid who's word and handshake are not important to him. Time to stop holding his hand I would say and make him do his own growing up.

[sell30a]

Just to be fair - this is the email where I was informed that the work would not be done! (i did edit out personal information that I did not think was appropriate to mention here, if diane wants the entire message posted, she can post it)


Randy,

I'm really sorry, at how this situation has turned out! You may not believe it, but Russ is, too! He didn't want to believe that he couldn't handle it, but apparently, that was the case. He had to take a full time job and has had numerous issues, to deal with. Not the least of which, was the *****personal********. I won't bore you, with the details! I wasn't aware of the overall situation here, as he didn't want to concern me.

Russ is going to be leaving for the Arctic Circle soon, to work with my brother. There is a great opportunity for Russ there and I'm very hopeful for him! ****personal*****. Again, I'm hopeful that the Alaskan trip and time with my brother, will be of great benefit!

Russ will be returning items that he can and sending you a money order, for the balance. Please provide your mailing address and I'll forward it to him. Unfortunately, he felt that it would be best, if handled in this way. I hope and pray that you forgive and I know that Russ does, as well!

Sincerely,
Diane *******


(Needless to say the money order never came.....)

[Smiling JOe]

Mango, I appreciate your insight and do agree, that we need to let our children learn, from experiences and mistakes.:clap_1: Don't think for a second, that I'm unable to "detach with love". I can probably do that, better than most! ;-) What I felt was out of line re:SJ's comment, was his incinuating that they will never be able to handle anything, if I am EVER there for them!:nono1: That's a serious observation, coming from someone not knowing us. Bottom line is that I, or anyone for that matter, should do what THEY feel is right for them. Like I've said, if people want to help others and post a need on this board, they shouldn't be faulted for it. To each his own, rings a bell!:razz:

No, what I was incinuating was that your sons are grown men, one who has fought in a war, and that they should be able to do just fine on their own. You stated in one of the deleted posts, that your sons didn't have access to SoWal. FYI - there are several business in SoWal with free internet access and computers on which to surf the web. The local library also works well for that purpose, seven days a week. It seems that everything you post is about something they need, so in my mind, I sense that you don't allow them to figure things out on their own. There is no single post of yours which would make me believe this, but the collection of all of them which leads me to my observations. One minute, it is a post about "go see Russ at Old Florida Fish House" -- (ie- he needs your tips) -- BTW - Russ waited on me and did a great job! Then, Russ needs a job. Next, one of my sons needs your skymiles. I think again, they needed a place to live. Then a washer and dryer. blah, blah, blah.

I understand that SoWal is a place to post info, including everything which you have ever asked about. You are in the perfect spot for that, and seem to have filled some of your sons' needs via SoWal. My statement is simply an observation of the collective group of posts, and I was trying to gently offer you some advice, from the perspective of a son. If you don't like my advice, just say, "screw you," as you did and move on.

[Kimmifunn]

Not to be rude...but do I hope, for the sake of Russ and Blake, that they are unaware of this board and don't see this. I would be pretty...no...extremely mortified.

[Miss Kitty]

Where is the scissor smilie? :eek:

[kathydwells]

Where is the scissor smilie? :eek:

Or the shredder one!!!

[Miss Kitty]

This thread is making me truly uncomfortable...and it takes alot to do that.

[Tootsie]

Tootsie makes a good point that there are some selfless people in this world who will do anything to help anyone within their means.

I too come from an Italian family, and although it killed my mother to hold back at times, she later said that sometimes she decided NOT to step in and help because she wanted us to learn how to figure it out on our own, make our own mistakes and figure out our solutions.

I think that was probably what SJ was suggesting.

excellent Mango. your mom sounds very grounded. it's okay to be giving and supportive of your children, but you must be able to let them live their own lives as well. and you can't be responsible for their decisions and mistakes.

some caring moms take it too far, which isn't helpful to their grown children as they intend. While I agree with SJ completely, I also feel that Diane needs to be able to deal with her family as she decides is best, without judgement.

i'm only sorry that sell30A felt compelled to use this board in the way in which he/she did.

[Mermaid]

excellent Mango. your mom sounds very grounded. it's okay to be giving and supportive of your children, but you must be able to let them live their own lives as well. and you can't be responsible for their decisions and mistakes.

some caring moms take it too far, which isn't helpful to their grown children as they intend.

i'm only sorry that sell30A felt compelled to use this board in the way in which he/she did.


I think sell30A must be totally shocked by the treatment he/she received from Diane's sons, given the glowing reports we've all been reading. I think that post was prompted by disappointment and anger.

I agree with everyone in that this thread is full of more dirty laundry than any of us should be reading. :(

[Mango]

excellent Mango. your mom sounds very grounded. it's okay to be giving and supportive of your children, but you must be able to let them live their own lives as well. and you can't be responsible for their decisions and mistakes.

some caring moms take it too far, which isn't helpful to their grown children as they intend. While I agree with SJ completely, I also feel that Diane needs to be able to deal with her family as she decides is best, without judgement.

i'm only sorry that sell30A felt compelled to use this board in the way in which he/she did.

Thanks Toots, my mother is very grounded, and close to the ground too since she is only 5" 2 :wub:

We all tower over her :lol:

[jessifunn]

sell30a has a right to post that after he/she was taken to the cleaners

[Tootsie]

sell30a has a right to post that after he/she was taken to the cleaners


:nono1: in very poor taste - just my opinion. this is a personal matter, and only serves to embarrass a well meaning mom.

further, this is a public forum for sharing information, learning about people and places in sowal and beyond, and having a little fun. shouldn't we take our personal conflicts outside?

[scrltbegonya]

Just to be fair - this is the email where I was informed that the work would not be done! (i did edit out personal information that I did not think was appropriate to mention here, if diane wants the entire message posted, she can post it)


Randy,

I'm really sorry, at how this situation has turned out! You may not believe it, but Russ is, too! He didn't want to believe that he couldn't handle it, but apparently, that was the case. He had to take a full time job and has had numerous issues, to deal with. Not the least of which, was the *****personal********. I won't bore you, with the details! I wasn't aware of the overall situation here, as he didn't want to concern me.

Russ is going to be leaving for the Arctic Circle soon, to work with my brother. There is a great opportunity for Russ there and I'm very hopeful for him! ****personal*****. Again, I'm hopeful that the Alaskan trip and time with my brother, will be of great benefit!

Russ will be returning items that he can and sending you a money order, for the balance. Please provide your mailing address and I'll forward it to him. Unfortunately, he felt that it would be best, if handled in this way. I hope and pray that you forgive and I know that Russ does, as well!

Sincerely,
Diane *******


(Needless to say the money order never came.....)

Personally, I would be more disappointed that Russ didn't write the letter/apologize himself than not getting the money.

[Diane4145]

:nono1: in very poor taste - just my opinion. this is a personal matter, and only serves to embarrass a well meaning mom.

Thanks, Tootsie and you're right, this is a horrible situation! I did encourage my son re:sell30a's land clearing, but was unaware of the outcome, untill recently. My son has had difficulties after being overseas, that are now being realized. Not an excuse, simply fact! I had faith that he would be able to complete it and am understanding, that HE did do some of the work! Unfortunately, this is a "he said, he said" case to be worked out, between Russ and sell30a.

It would've been preferred that sell30a contacted me, before this! Not that it's anyone's business, but I emailed him of Russ' inability in completing the work, since I put them in touch initially. The deposit was for chain saw, etc.., which were to be returned. If that hasn't happened, I will be in touch and do what I can. He has no intentions of keeping the items, he's procrastinating, bigtime! He is about to leave for work at the Arctic Circle, with my brother's company. I feel that he will greatly benefit with time with my brother, as he has always been a great influence! As for any money owed, he WILL be paying that, himself!

SJ, as noted, you ARE seemingly judgemental and very much uncalled for! Unless you are a perfect parent, never havng made ANY mistakes, keep your mouth out of it! It's one thing to offer "suggestions", but you went overboard! You fault me for posting re:helping my sons or anyone else, but I can assure you, that topic has more meaning than, "SO WHAT WOMEN WANT SMILING JOE?"! I didn't intend to stoop to your level, but seems you gave me no choice! In the future, you might want to hold your tongue, or in this case, your typing! Bottom line...Is it your business? NO Am I asking your advice? NO

Has anyone out there ever referred someone and things didn't work out?:idontno: We all have good intentions and faith in people, but unfortunately, things happen! I've never condonned this situation and never would!

[Tootsie]

Diane: you owe no explanation. there are always two sides. also, the blasting of our SJ is not necessary either. he meant well and always has his heart in the right place.

I suggest this thread is ended, it's just not going anywhere.:(

[Diane4145]

[quote=Tootsie;141006]Diane: you owe no explanation. there are always two sides. also, the blasting of our SJ is not necessary either. he meant well and always has his heart in the right place.


The "blasting" may not seem necessary to you, but he didn't attack you. Honestly, his heart hasn't seemed "in a good place", in any of this! He may have meant well, but came across otherwise! I agree, I want this thread ended, too!