Thoughts and Prayers for IBD and family

[kurt]

Our hearts are sad, and our thoughts and prayers are with our good friend InletBchDweller (IBD) and her family. Her mother, Wanda Irby, and sister, Deborah Irby, along with friends Roxanne Costello, her husband Barry DeLong, and pilot John Johnson lost their lives in a small plane crash 20 miles south of Chipley, Florida this morning. No one else was aboard.

All four were residents of Seacrest Beach. They were in route from Destin to the Bahamas to meet Deborah's husband at their home there when bad weather is believed to have caused the tragic accident.

The SoWal community is already coming together and working to do whatever we can for IBD and her family during this sad time.

[Indigo Jill]

I had heard "rumors" about this earlier today and am sad to hear the confirmation. My thoughts are with IBD, the Costello family and Johnson family.

[Paula]

This is so very sad. My heart and prayers go to IBD and her family during this most difficult time. Unimaginable, for sure. When you know where services will be, please post it so that those of us who want to remember IBD and her family at this sad time can do so.

[Mermaid]

My heart breaks for all of them. Our sincerest condolences.

[iwishiwasthere]

Kurt, Thank you for sharing the sad news.

IDB...Words do not adequately express my sadness for you and your family. I am so sorry about your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. May God provide you comfort during this time.

[Smiling JOe]

:shock::( I had just heard about Deborah and her mom, but I had no idea about Roxanne and John. The news is just heart-breaking.

[Tootsie]

Rebecca (IBD), Jdarg and I (and kids) had just left the movies this afternoon when she got the phone call. Jenny spent time with her this afternoon. We know many of you will want to help the IBD family with your caring support.

We'll try to keep all of IBD's SoWal friends informed of events. She knows we are making this announcement. She will need all of our prayers and support in the days and weeks to come.

Much love to IBD, Mr IBD, and Little IBD... :wub:

[Allifunn]

My heart and my soul is crying for dear IBD and family. I love you girl. You are ever in my thoughts.

[dbuck]

I am so very sorry, words seem so inadequate. Keep us posted and if there is anything that we can do as a SoWal board community, please let us know. I will keep IBD and her family in my prayers.

[goodwitch58]

I am so sad...to lose friends and colleagues like this -- it is tragic. My thoughts are with the families. I have such fond memories of working with them. Life is so very fragile.....

[Miss Kitty]

Dear IBD and family...I hope you can feel the warm embrace of your sowal family. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is aching for you and I want you to know my prayers are with you. God Bless you all.

[Cork On the Ocean]

Rebecca, my heart is breaking for you sweetie. As I said earlier, if there is ANYTHING at all that I can do, just let me know. I am so lucky to know both you and Deb. Your mom raised such beautiful daughters. You know I'll be overseas for the service but my heart and love will be with you, Les and your family. :wub:

Thanks Jdarg and toots for being there for her and I know that her sowal family will help get her through this.

Sorry I'm not there to hold you right now sweet IBD :( but I'm there if you need me for anything.

[pgurney]

How very sad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, IBD.

[Ocean Lover]

IBD,
I am so so sorry. I really don't have any words. Just know that I am praying for you and your family. I'm glad you were with friends when you got the news. May God comfort you in the hours, days and weeks to come.

http://www.abacus-nurseries.co.uk/images/waterlily%20dahlias/sympathy.jpg

[Allifunn]

Such a hard thing on all of you Rebecca, just know that we all love you. You, Les and especially little IBD are in our thoughts and prayers

[Lady D]

:( This is such a sad thing! I'm so sorry for IBD. My thoughts are with her and her family.

[Mango]

IBD, Mr.IBD and little IBD. I am so sad for you for your losses that words can not express. Just know that you are in my prayers and thoughts and here for you.

[supermom26.2]

My prayers will be for you, your family and friends. I am so sorry for this tragedy in your lives. May God be with all of you.

[TooFarTampa]

IBD I don't know what to say that hasn't been said. I am heartbroken for you and your family. What a loss for you and the SoWal community. :( :( You are in my prayers.

[gotothebeachmom]

IBD, Little IBD, and Mr. IBD,

From my entire family, we extend our hearts, our love and our compassion to all of you. You will be in our thoughts, our prayers, and our hearts. I know words are not a lot at this point in time. But please know you and your family are so very loved by each and everyone of us.

[Cork On the Ocean]

While I can't even imagine our poor IBD's pain, I can tell all of you guys from experience that the sowal community's support in one's time of need really DOES help. Thank you Kurt for creating this venue for us to laugh, cry and love in. It's truly unique and wonderful community model. IBD WILL get through this with the love and support of her friends. :wub:

[Franny]

Becca I just found out and I will be over tomorrow..

[Allifunn]

Becca I just found out and I will be over tomorrow..
give her a huge hug from me please Franny!

[bsmart]

I am very sorry to hear of this. I offer my love, friendship and sympathy, and anything else that is needed in this time of need.

Brian.

[ShallowsNole]

I am so, so sorry...don't know what to say, what to do. The only thing I know to do is to pray.

[RiverOtter]

We at the Otter house are very sad and will keep you in our prayers. I am so sorry IBD

[DD]

IBD, I've been awol for a few days and just heard this from Allifunn. Honey, I am so, so sorry. My heart is breaking for you, Les, and Little IBD. There are simply no words.....

[scrltbegonya]

Very sorry to hear this. You and yours will be kept in my thoughts.

[Beach Runner]

Oh, Jesus! I'm *so* sorry about IBD's family. What a horrible tragedy! My thoughts and prayers will be with her and her family. :'(

[olive]

IDB, you will be in our thoughts and prayers.

[kathydwells]

Rebecca, I am so very, very sorry for your losses. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts, prayers and heart tonight. I wish I could be there to give you a hug. I am truly, truly sorry.

[Bob]

IBD, I hope these tragic days reveal to you the gift of having true friends and neighbors to lean on.

[Bobby J]

IBD,
I do not even know what to say... My family will pray for you and If you need anything please reach out.

[Johnrudy]

Dear IBD,

I am so very sorry. You and your family are in my heart and in my prayers.
Take care ~

Allison

[Camp Creek Kid]

IBD, so very sorry to hear this sad news. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

[peapod1980]

IBD, prayers for you and your family. I am so sorry. God bless and comfort you.

[InletBchDweller]

thanks for all the nice words
i am in shock now
i love you all

[Tootsie]

thanks for all the nice words
i am in shock now
i love you all
Oh, my love, it is good to see you here. please take care of yourself and call us!!! we're coming tomorrow.... love you!:wub:

[Tootsie]

please pm me or jdarg if you want to contribute to food, drink, or anything...

[jdarg]

please pm me or jdarg if you want to contribute to food, drink, or anything...

I am hoping to know more of what they will be needing tomorrow, in the meantime y'all are doing a great job of getting ready to rally around IBD.

[Cork On the Ocean]

You're remarkable for even having the strength to logon Beck. Wish I could be there with you. :wub: Get some rest if you can please.

[30A Skunkape]

RG, please check your PM. We are more than willing to help you in any way-we love you! 30A skunk and rapunz

[lindatat]

IBD, I am so sorry - went out tonight right after work and haven't been online since this afternoon. My heart just sank when I read the news, please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers - wish there was more I could say or do to give you comfort after such a horrible tragedy.

[Miss Kitty]

thanks for all the nice words
i am in shock now
i love you all

Thank you for checking in IBD...this is just like you to help us in your time of grief. Give little ibd a hug for me.

[Cil]

I am so very, very sorry to see this news.
Sending hugs and prayerful thoughts to you, IBD.

[audie]

ibd, i am so sorry to read about this, i just don't know of anything to say to you, so just know and your family are in our thoughts -take care my friend

[ItzKatzTime]

The ripple effect of your loss IBD is felt throughout our community. Our hearts are heavy. You have so many who love you and are thinking of you at this time. My prayers are also with you.

Kathy and Doug

[iwishiwasthere]

Still lifting you and your fmaily up each time of think of you which is quite often. Hugs from TN.

[Beachbummett]

I have no idea what to say. Just know that you are in our thoughts and prayers constantly. ~Here is a big hug!~

[Donna]

Rebecca, there are no words to express the sadness we felt at hearing the news of your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Your entire SoWal support group grieves with you. I remember having dinner with you and your Mom down at Seaside when I was here last and she was such a strong life force, delightful and engaging. I know that she was proud of her girls and you will always have her close in your heart.

[Franny]

give her a huge hug from me please Franny!

Consider it done Alli:wub:

[Beach Crazy]

Like everyone before me, please know how sad we are for you. We are here and will be here in the coming days, please use us for your outlet. I am so sorry to hear of your family's loss......

[Beachmom]

R-
I just found out from Repuzal, My heart breaks for you and what you are going through. My prayers are with you and I am there for you and anything you need- :wub: you-
Allison

[whitesands]

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry to hear this sad, sad, news. What a horrible tragedy. May your family and friends provide the strength you will certainly need during this most difficult of times. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

[Beach Bimmer]

Rebecca, you are in our prayers and thoughts during this most difficult of times.

[BeachBebe]

IBD, May God bless you and your family with peace in the following days.

[shakennotstirred]

So sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[John R]

Rebecca, I just heard about this this am. I have you and your family in my thoughts. if there is anything you need...

jr

[bluemtnfriend]

Just a word of sympathy for IBD and all the family. We fly into Destin from Tennessee and hate to hear of any one losing loved ones this way.
We'll be keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

[drunkkenartist]

My friend Lisa in Ohio just sent this to me. Though she knew none of the parties involved, as a frequent visitor to South Walton, she knows what a tight knit community we are, and wished to pass along this poem along with her condolences to the family and friends.

My First Christmas in Heaven

I see the countless Christmas Trees, around the world below
With tiny lights like heaven’s stars, reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so spectacular, please wipe away your tears,
For I am sharing Christmas, with Jesus Christ this year.

I hear the many Christmas songs, that people hold so dear,
But the sounds of music can’t compare, with the Christmas choir here.
I have no words to tell you, the joy their voices bring,
It’s far beyond description, to hear the angels sing.

I know how much you miss me. I see the pain within your heart,
But I am not so far away. We really aren’t apart.
So be happy for me, loved ones. You know I hold you dear,
And be glad I’m spending Christmas, with Jesus Christ this year.

I send you each a special gift, from my heavenly home above.
I send you each a memory, of my undying love.
After all “Love” is the gift, more precious than pure gold.
It was always most important, in the stories Jesus told.

Please love and keep each other, as my Father said to do,
For I can’t count the blessing, or the love he has for you.
So, have a Merry Christmas, and wipe away those tears,
For I am sharing Christmas, with Jesus Christ this year.

-Anonymous

I'm sending this along with my thoughts and prayers and hope that it can bring some form of comfort to each and everyone.

Kenny

[Ocean Lover]

:welcome: that's a lovely poem. I attended a funeral this morning and also heard it there.

If anyone needs IBD's address you may pm me or email olbunnyfunn@aol.com

[Hop]

our love goes out to you...anything we can do..

[Cork On the Ocean]

Anyone got an update on our sweet girl and her family? I just can't imagine what she's going through down here. Any info on services or if someone will be with them for Christmas? I just wish there was something I could do. :(

[Beach Runner]

Well, it doesn't help the pain for IBD (that'll take forever to subside -- been there), but is anyone organizing meals? I mean, people in pain need to eat, but they don't feel like cooking or going out. Is there anyone who lives in SoWal who could organize a signup sheet for meals? I'll be there next week and could sign up.

[jdarg]

Well, it doesn't help the pain for IBD (that'll take forever to subside -- been there), but is anyone organizing meals? I mean, people in pain need to eat, but they don't feel like cooking or going out. Is there anyone who lives in SoWal who could organize a signup sheet for meals? I'll be there next week and could sign up.


They are receiving food, and one of her sister's good freinds is doing an awesome job of keeping everything straight. A sign up sheet may be a good idea- I will pass it along tomorrow.

IBD is one incredible gal y'all- we saw her today and she is my hero.:wub: Keep the good wishes coming her way.

[Tootsie]

Well, it doesn't help the pain for IBD (that'll take forever to subside -- been there), but is anyone organizing meals? I mean, people in pain need to eat, but they don't feel like cooking or going out. Is there anyone who lives in SoWal who could organize a signup sheet for meals? I'll be there next week and could sign up.

Jenny and I are working closely with the family/friends to organize meals. also, they have friends who are working very hard to organize and take care of all needs. no sign up sheet needed. just do what you can.

IBD is so appreciative of her sowal support. those were her first words to me today - she was so aware and thankful for all of you. she knows your concern and she loves you all for it.

I'm in awe of IBD - she continues to be a loving mother and wife, while at the same time she is already honoring the memory of her mother and sister as she recalls stories and goes through hundreds of photos. IBD was so beautiful today when I saw her, - what an awesome woman. She is my new hero. I want to be like her when I grow up...

I can't tell you how much she hurts, but I can tell you she is wonderful in every way. Mr. IBD, what can I say about our spam man, other than the fact that he is just as wonderful as his bride. I'm honored to know them both.

[Beach Runner]

They are receiving food, and one of her sister's good freinds is doing an awesome job of keeping everything straight. A sign up sheet may be a good idea- I will pass it along tomorrow.

IBD is one incredible gal y'all- we saw her today and she is my hero.:wub: Keep the good wishes coming her way.
Okay, just let me know. I can cook up something when we get there.

[TooFarTampa]

:wub: Rebecca you have been constantly in my thoughts today -- and it's obvious I'm not the only one. (((Hugs))) to you today.

Thanks for the updates toots and jdarg, and for doing such a great job representing all SoWallers.

[ladybug8876]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss IBD, know that I am praying for you and that The Lord will wrap his arms around you and comfort you.

[InletBchDweller]

hey everyone.

oh my gosh, another way that Kurt has saved my life.
All of you, even people that I do not know personally have touched me.
OMG, the poem. Thank you Drunnkenartist and :welcome: .

Mr ibd parents came in this afternoon. I am sooooooo lucky to have such great in laws. Mr ibd's dad has always been my dad (my father passed away in 1987) and now his mom is my mom. Mr. ibd's sister, husband and my cute nephew will be here tues or wed. :clap_1:

I have no idea on where to begin on what to tell you. The media is calling and I dont know who has talked to them. The sheriffs office in Washinton county has been great :clap_1: . What a job they have ahead of them. The FAA? is still investigating and it may take several more days I believe.

Services, gosh how do you plan two???? I am still deciding on where to have my moms. My sisters will be here, not sure where though.

My sisters husband is home and LOST without her. Those of you who knew him knew how lucky he was to have her and they were so much in love. His family is here and with him.

Thanks to everyone who did WHAT THEY DID, and you know what I mean.

I am coping, I am a strong person and will get through this. I have to for little IBD.

I am a God fearing person and believe that my Saviour did this for a reason. I am good with that. It does not take away the pain but I know that is what my Creator wanted, I believe that he needed them.

Times will get rough before they get better and knowing that I have all of you guys out there make it bearable.

Thanks and I love you all, and Kurt, this is a great thing you have created here. I could NEVER repay you for what you have given me via this board.

Merry Christmas everyone. Tommorow (Sunday) we are baking Christmas cookies, watching movies and having funn!!! That is what my mother and sister would have wanted me to do.

[Cil]

::hugs:: to strong and faithful InletBeachDweller

Salute (and more hugs) to the warm community of South Walton

[Miss Kitty]

Dear IBD,

You have touched me in a way that will change me forever. Your letter to us made me feel like I was sitting with you. I sit here with tears that are a mixture of grief, awe and hope. I know many of us have been thinking "how in the world would someone get through this". Now I know. With a great spirit and an unwavering faith. You are so blessed and I am blessed to know you.

S

P.S. Tell my little friend, little ibd, that Miss Kitty is coming to town and can't wait to see her! :wub:

[sunsetdunes]

For such a small community, Inlet Beach seems to have more than its share of sad events. A couple of years ago our neighbor who owned the house two doors down from us was killed in a car accident.

I am sure that everyone who lives or owns in Inlet Beach, as we do, shares sadness at your loss. No words can make things better, but just know that we are thinking of you and hoping that you find the strength to cope with this personal tragedy.

[iwishiwasthere]

IBD, thank you for the update. Enjoy baking cookies and spending time with those who love you dearly. When I read your post,my eyes filled with tears. You will survive this and treasure all the good memories you have. I will still lift you in prayer each time I think of you the next few weeks. BLessings on your day!

[Beachbummett]

IBD is my new hero!:wub: Just know we are all thinking about you and your family. We love you very much! Hug little IBD for me!:wub:

[Lady D]

Dear IBD,

You have touched me in a way that will change me forever. Your letter to us made me feel like I was sitting with you. I sit here with tears that are a mixture of grief, awe and hope. I know many of us have been thinking "how in the world would someone get through this". Now I know. With a great spirit and an unwavering faith. You are so blessed and I am blessed to know you.

S

P.S. Tell my little friend, little ibd, that Miss Kitty is coming to town and can't wait to see her! :wub:

Her reply has teared me up also, especially the words about her sister's husband being all lost without her, and how much in love they were, and god needing her mother and sister. How strong she is. IBD, I am thinking about you. Take care.

[Allifunn]

Jenny and I are working closely with the family/friends to organize meals. also, they have friends who are working very hard to organize and take care of all needs. no sign up sheet needed. just do what you can.

IBD is so appreciative of her sowal support. those were her first words to me today - she was so aware and thankful for all of you. she knows your concern and she loves you all for it.

I'm in awe of IBD - she continues to be a loving mother and wife, while at the same time she is already honoring the memory of her mother and sister as she recalls stories and goes through hundreds of photos. IBD was so beautiful today when I saw her, - what an awesome woman. She is my new hero. I want to be like her when I grow up...

I can't tell you how much she hurts, but I can tell you she is wonderful in every way. Mr. IBD, what can I say about our spam man, other than the fact that he is just as wonderful as his bride. I'm honored to know them both.
:wub: :wub: :wub: Thank you Tootsie and Jenny for being our SoWal ambassadors!!!
Dear IBD,

You have touched me in a way that will change me forever. Your letter to us made me feel like I was sitting with you. I sit here with tears that are a mixture of grief, awe and hope. I know many of us have been thinking "how in the world would someone get through this". Now I know. With a great spirit and an unwavering faith. You are so blessed and I am blessed to know you.


I feel the same way Miss K!!! beautifully said! :wub: :wub:
IBD, thank you for the update. Enjoy baking cookies and spending time with those who love you dearly. When I read your post,my eyes filled with tears. You will survive this and treasure all the good memories you have. I will still lift you in prayer each time I think of you the next few weeks. BLessings on your day!Ditto

[Smiling JOe]

Local musician, Jimmi Wz (James Wisniewski), once wrote the following words, which I have to share with you.

"This is an amazing world that we live in. So intimate and delicate.... the infinite depth of our reality... a truly personal experience for each of us as individuals, and as much as we would love to share with others...even a nudge or a wink to acknowledge... the "I can't believe How fabulous" this life is. We all have these moments that are just for us and no one else...all the while knowing this, it is sad and beautiful at the same time...."

[DD]

Oh IBD...you are a true inspiration. I'm so glad I got on the board and read your touching post. It made me know that even though, like you said, it's gonna get harder before it gets easier, that you will be ok. I have been so worried about you--and now I see that your faith will carry you through this most difficult time. You continue to be in my thoughts and thank you for keeping us updated. It's so hard when we're so far away and can't be there to lend a shoulder. :wub:
I hope you do get to have some funn--and give Little IBD a hug for me.

[Bobby J]

IBD,

You are an amazing person. Thanks for posting.

[Beachmom]

IBD-
You amaze me! You have given all of us quite a gift with your post. I'm sure that everyone on this board has had you so deeply on our minds and hearts. Your strength and faith are something that will shine for your sweet little IBD in her life. Miss Kitty said it all so well, thank you for that. You are a dear friend to so many, and I hope that you can lean on all those around you (even in spirit:wub: ) during those hard times. We all love you very much-

[Tootsie]

I wanted to just say that so many people in our community are feeling the loss of their beloved friends who died on that plane. Like our Franny, who personally knew them all. :wub: I'm thinking of everyone in South Walton, and beyond who have lost their family and friends in this tragic accident.

I'm especially thinking of IBD, Mr IBD and Little IBD:wub: . Thanks IBD for letting us see you here - it makes us feel a little better just knowing that you are at your computer for a moment and that you are going to be okay.:wub:

To Franny and Mr Franny, Jenny, Rapunzel (our resident martha stewart) and skunky and Bdarg... you are all working hard. I appreciate what you are doing to support IBD on behalf of IBD's sowal friends. :wub:

thanks to our ocean lover for helping so much with behind the scenes communication, keeping sowal friends informed.

and thanks to everyone on this board expressing their feelings and concern and their need to help their beautiful friend - you know who you are! :wub: we've heard from so many of you - and you are all the very best!

[Allifunn]

The love felt here transcends time, space and computer wire! :wub:

[Paula]

Rebecca: You sure were raised to have strength -- that's a wonderful gift to have been given that I'm sure you and Mr. IBD are passing on to little IBD. Here's a poem that someone passed on to my sisters and me when my mother died -- I love it.

I am standing upon the seashore.
A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning
breeze and starts for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength,
and I stand and watch her
until at length she is only a
speck of white cloud
just where the sea and sky meet
and mingle with each other.
Then someone at my side exclaims,
“There, she’s gone!”
Gone where? Gone from my side, that is all.
She is just as large in hull and mast and spar as she was
when she left my side, and just as able to bear her load of
living freight to the place of her destination.
Her diminished size is in me, not in her.
And just at the moment when someone at my side says
“She’s gone”
there are other eyes watching for her coming
and other voices ready to take up the glad shout,
“There she comes!”

With many thoughts and prayers for you and your family,
Paula

[drunkkenartist]

Paula, what a beautiful poem!

Kenny

[Allifunn]

I love that poem! :wub:

[Tootsie]

we missed IBD today when we dropped off a bunch of food & gifts from several sowallers - thanks so much for your cooking sowal friends!!! we had a chance to visit with Mr IBD and loved being with him - he is really an adorable louisana guy with much spirit and just so real. I'm just sorry I didn't have a spam cake to deliver...

beachmom is doing a fried turkey tomorrow to take to the IBD family - how wonderful!

we love you InletBchDweller and continuing to think of you, pray for your family, and wishing you peace... merry merry little IBD!!! :wub: for santa is coming tonight.

[Smiling JOe]

we missed IBD today when we dropped off a bunch of food & gifts from several sowallers - thanks so much for your cooking sowal friends!!! but we visited with Mr IBD and loved being with him - he is really an adorable louisana guy with much spirit and just so real. I'm just sorry I didn't have a spam cake to deliver...

beachmom is doing a fried turkey tomorrow to take to IBD - how wonderful!

we love you InletBchDweller and continuing to think of you, pray for your family, and wishing you peace... merry merry little IBD!!! :wub: for santa is coming tonight.
Tootsie and Jdarg, thank you so much for being the delivery friends! I don't think I could have gotten the Pumpkin Pie there otherwise.

I don't know about you guys, but I find myself reading every post that comes on this thread, and I am grateful to know so many caring people. You are not "virtual" friends -- You are real people with caring souls! Again, a special thanks to Kurt for putting this SoWal thing together! It has brought us all together in what might otherwise be a quiet little community in the offseason.

IBD, I wish you, Mr IBD and Little Miss IBD a very Merry Christmas!

[SHELLY]

May you find comfort in recalling memories of happy holiday times spent together and peace in knowing your loved ones are never further than a thought away.







.

[TooFarTampa]

IBD you amaze me -- I agree 100 percent with Paula about how you are passing on your strength to little IBD. I am certain she will always remember how you are handling things, and she will love and appreciate you even more for it one day. Thank you for thinking of us enough to check in. Please remember to take care of yourself, too, okay? Though I know it will be hard.

Thank you Toots for pointing out that many people lost loved ones in this tragic crash. I wish them all some semblance of peace tonight.

[TooFarTampa]

I don't know about you guys, but I find myself reading every post that comes on this thread, and I am grateful to know so many caring people. You are not "virtual" friends -- You are real people with caring souls! Again, a special thanks to Kurt for putting this SoWal thing together! It has brought us all together in what might otherwise be a quiet little community in the offseason.

You and Kurt can take almost total credit, as far as I'm concerned. What you guys did during Ivan and Dennis gave this board real significance. Bravo to you both and to those who are continuing along in that spirit by helping IBD and others affected by this. :wub: Merry Christmas. :clap_1:

[InletBchDweller]

update.....

i know that many of you have sent things and I am thanking you now in case it was not written down b/c there is NO WAY that I could remember. I will try to pm you as soon as I can.
Santa is ready and Olivia will get EVERYTHING that she asked for plus a little extra ;-)
i went to my moms house today. i thought I did well . It was just a quick in and out to get important papers, and a few personal items
The FAA investigation continues and i have been told that they do not know when it will be over
the obituaries will be coming out tues and/or wed. Thursday night from 5-8 we are having a celebration for my mom and sisters life. All are invited. It is being held at the Village of South Walton banquet room. ( i think that is what they call it)
my moms funeral will be in Dothan, Alabama this upcoming sat
my sisters service will be very private and at a later date
for my mom and sister we do not want flowers but a donation made to Caring and Sharing or another South Walton charity. I believe that caring and sharing is closed until the new year. If someone reading this knows someone whom I can talk to about receiving donations on behalf of Deborah or Wanda please pm me their information. Thanks....
the food, the food, I can not begin to post how much it means :wub: and how good it was :biggrin: . whomever made the steak/meat sauce my FatherInLaw wants the recipe if it is not an ancient family secret:biggrin:
I promise that tommorow I am going to try to take the whole day off. I am posting this so if someone catches me dealing with stuff they can call me out..:roll: :lol:
I hope everyone has a very merry Christmas:wub: :wub: :wub:

[Mango]

IBD, so sweet of you to post an update for us. You have been in my thoughts and prayers. Please have a peaceful Xmas with your in-laws, Les and Olivia.
Hugs and kisses:wub:

[Miss Kitty]

Thank you for your gift, IBD. May God keep you and bless you and your family. Please know that we feel your thankfulness and don't expect anything else from you. :wub:

All I ask is that little ibd tell us what Santa brought! :clap_1: Tell her Santa just left stockings full of funn for my kids!

[DD]

IBD, you continue to amaze me. I hope you have a peaceful day off. Love to all. :wub:

[Tootsie]

IBD - just had to come say hey and let you know we're thinking of you and your family right now!!! :wub: :wub: :wub: I see you were up late - did you bump into santa???

[Johnrudy]

IBD,
I'm sure you are already aware of this but there's lots of love and support over on the Abaco message board too. :wub:

Hope Little IBD is enjoying her Christmas stuff ~

[abacomah]

As johnrudy indicated, love and support from a member of the AbacoMessageboard. IBD I believe you are a friend of Allison's who is a friend of my daughter, AbacoRica. It is a small world. Warm prayers and wishes your way during this difficult time.

[Allifunn]

As johnrudy indicated, love and support from a member of the AbacoMessageboard. IBD I believe you are a friend of Allison's who is a friend of my daughter, AbacoRica. It is a small world. Warm prayers and wishes your way during this difficult time.
Oh my gosh!!! What a small world indeed!!!!! I love your daughter!!!! :wub:
Glad you have found your way to this board! :welcome: :welcome:

[tistheseason]

I thought about lil' IBD all day today. (Isn't it funny how someone you don't know can occupy your thoughts!) I hope she had a great christmas and that Santa spent a little extra time dropping off gifts for her last night! My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

[imasunbum]

IBD - I have only met you once but met and talked with your sister several times. I just learned of your tragic loss today and I was shocked and saddened. When I read your posts, I thanked God for giving you strength. You seem amazing. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Allifunn]

I thought about lil' IBD all day today. (Isn't it funny how someone you don't know can occupy your thoughts!) I hope she had a great christmas and that Santa spent a little extra time dropping off gifts for her last night! My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
I have thought about them all day today too...i am sure they are all feeling the love sent out from the people on this board!
I have it on good authority that santa was extra good to lil' IBD!!!:wub:

[InletBchDweller]

today was a good day.
after i finished some business we went to jdargs and had funn!!!! The Dargs (and whole family), mr and mrs skunky, toots & Kurt, and my whole family te, laughed and visited with great friends. Mr. IBD is beside himself on his new found friends.....
Thanks again to everyone.....
I am going to sleep now, LOOOOOOOOOOOOOng day tommorow....

[Ocean Lover]

IBD, glad you had a good day. Will keep you in our prayers this week too...

[jdarg]

Yes - it was funn! IBD and Mr. IBD and Olivia made our day. Mr. IBD and Bdarg were excellent dishwashers. Bdarg is an excellent meat cooker. We will post the Henry Bain sauce (meat suace) recipe soon.

My mother LOVES Rapunzel- who chatted her up all night!!

I have a sink full of dishes, a fridge full of yummy leftovers, and I can't wait to deliver food all over SoWal tomorrow!

[30A Skunkape]

It was great to see team IBD tonight...hang in there, we are all thinking about you guys!:clap_1:

[Miss Kitty]

Yes - it was funn! IBD and Mr. IBD and Olivia made our day. Mr. IBD and Bdarg were excellent dishwashers. Bdarg is an excellent meat cooker. We will post the Henry Bain sauce (meat suace) recipe soon.

My mother LOVES Rapunzel- who chatted her up all night!!

I have a sink full of dishes, a fridge full of yummy leftovers, and I can't wait to deliver food all over SoWal tomorrow!

:wub:

[RiverOtter]

today was a good day.
after i finished some business we went to jdargs and had funn!!!! The Dargs (and whole family), mr and mrs skunky, toots & Kurt, and my whole family te, laughed and visited with great friends. Mr. IBD is beside himself on his new found friends.....
Thanks again to everyone.....
I am going to sleep now, LOOOOOOOOOOOOOng day tommorow....


With that crowd how could you not have funn :funn:

[Allifunn]

I am so glad you were able to spend a loving evening with friends that love and care for you and your whole family! :wub:
Each day forward will begin the healing process, but you can rest assured, your SoWal friends will be with you every step of the way!

[Tootsie]

thanks jdarg and bdarg for having us all over last night!!! jenay - where do you get your energy? the spread of food was incredible and delicious! thanks so much for getting us all together - it was so nice to just be with the IBDs for a while, especially on christmas day.

jenny - you never told us that Dennis Quaid was your brother! very nice to meet him! :biggrin:

and what a gorgeous mama you have, and a precious family. Bdarg is my new boyfriend though. ;-)

punzy - your red velvet cake is the best I've ever ever put in my mouth. it's was so delicious for breakfast this morning!!! tell stumpy, I mean skunky to drive safely!

[InletBchDweller]

Hello all, I think the lack of sleep is now catching up to me. ((((I know Skunky I need a good 8 hours. )))))):biggrin:
Today we finalized the Celebration of Deb and Mom's life that is Thursday night and I also got all the arrangements done for moms memorial service Sat.
My cousin, Dana, did a great interview with channel 13 about my sisters life. It MAY be on at 10:00 and I am guessing it will be on their website.
I was told the investigation was over today and hopfully soon I can get some sort of closure on that part.
I received some wonderful cards today, Thanks again.....:wub: :wub: :wub:

[Miss Kitty]

Thanks for the update, IBD. I was lucky enough to meet your mom in October. I remember telling her the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. She was a hoot and a half!

I am sending you another hug...:wub: Stay strong sweet IBD.

[jdarg]

Dana's interview is on the WMMB Channel 13 website- you are right, IBD, it is a nice interview.

[audie]

i just watched the interview, it was a very nice one. mr audie said tonight to be sure to let the ibd's know he is thinking of them. he was so taken with you guys when we met back in may, he feels just awful. keep your head up ibd, you have a lot of support behind you girl !

[Destiny]

What a wonderful community to live in. I have been off the board for a while with my mom. I was saddened to read of the tragic news in the community. It is so wonderful to read about the celebration of their lives. God takes us home when he is ready. We are to be thankful for the time he gives us on earth to share the love with our families and friends.

IBD, my heart goes out to you and the other families. Your loving words on the board are t tribute to your mother for giving you the strength to go forward and to recognize little IBDs needs of her mother. GOD BLESS you and your family in the coming days and weeks. His love will be there for you. When you look into the sky at night, the bright stars are your loved ones shining down upon you.

"Look Within Yourself To Find Peace"

[steele mama]

I was off the board too until this morning when I read the news. I was really in shock and disbelief! There are no words except to say I'm so sorry for what you are going through, I care and will be praying for you and the whole family. God Bless.

[Tootsie]

thinking of IBD now... :wub:

[DD]

thinking of IBD now... :wub:

Me too.:wub: Sent her a hug through Miss K.

[Beachmom]

haven't stopped here...:wub:

[Tootsie]

Me too.:wub: Sent her a hug through Miss K.

haven't stopped here...:wub:

I know. big hugs from us all... :wub:

[steele mama]

My sister wrote me this morning that she used to work with Roxanne and Deborah at Southern Title and Escrow. She is very sad along with all who knew them.

[Mango]

Hello all, I think the lack of sleep is now catching up to me. ((((I know Skunky I need a good 8 hours. )))))):biggrin:
Today we finalized the Celebration of Deb and Mom's life that is Thursday night and I also got all the arrangements done for moms memorial service Sat.
My cousin, Dana, did a great interview with channel 13 about my sisters life. It MAY be on at 10:00 and I am guessing it will be on their website.
I was told the investigation was over today and hopfully soon I can get some sort of closure on that part.
I received some wonderful cards today, Thanks again.....:wub: :wub: :wub:

I will be thinking of you tonight. :wub:

[gotothebeachmom]

GTTBD and I along with, the Mer's, Jdarg, Rapunzel, and Beachmom, went to the celebration of IBD's lovely Sister and her wonderful Mom this evening. It was so good to see IBD and give her a hug. What a strong lady. She's awesome.:wub: I cannot begin to imagine how tough this is for her entire family.

The service was wonderful. It truely, conveyed the joy this family shared, and the everlasting bond that will always survive.

[Tootsie]

sorry we missed you gttbm and all. yes, the celebration of life service for Wanda and Deborah was really an inspiration - with slide show and photos of a beautiful family enjoying life to its fullest! and we enjoyed being in the presence of our IBD once again... :wub: :wub: :wub:

[CastlesOfSand]

IBD I am deeply saddened by your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Love and peace be with you. I just want to give you a hug. :wub:

[kathydwells]

IBD, I just went back a re-read this whole thread. Your strength amazes me, even in words. I have been worried about you and your family, but I don't think I need to worry. I can tell that you are a strong, amazing woman. I only wish I could strive to be like you in a time like this. You are an inspiration to all of us. You have shown us, that cannot be there with you, that life does go on. My heart is with you as you prepare for your goodbye's. :wub:

[Rita]

I am just now reading this. I want to send you and your family good thoughts, prayers and hugs. What a wonderful SoWal family you are surrounded by! :wub:

[InletBchDweller]

Hey everyone,

I have not been on the board in days. Wow, how tiring this all is. I have had loads of family around (they are all gone know) and now it is down to the business part of all of this. :shock: All I can say is that each and everyone of you should take the time and money to have a detailed will and make sure you have plenty of life insurance. It sure makes things easier.

I am sorry I missed the people I missed on New Years Eve, my brother in law wanted everyone at his house for the new year. We had as good of a time that we could and drank wayyyyyyyy too much champagne!:clap_1:

Thanks to all of you who sent flowers, cards, goodies, and other items.;-) It was all very appreciated....

I love you guys!!!!

[DD]

Hey everyone,

I have not been on the board in days. Wow, how tiring this all is. I have had loads of family around (they are all gone know) and now it is down to the business part of all of this. :shock: All I can say is that each and everyone of you should take the time and money to have a detailed will and make sure you have plenty of life insurance. It sure makes things easier.

I am sorry I missed the people I missed on New Years Eve, my brother in law wanted everyone at his house for the new year. We had as good of a time that we could and drank wayyyyyyyy too much champagne!:clap_1:

Thanks to all of you who sent flowers, cards, goodies, and other items.;-) It was all very appreciated....

I love you guys!!!!

:wub: :wub: :wub:

[iwishiwasthere]

Still thinking of you....Glad to see you posting again.

[InletBchDweller]

Still thinking of you....Glad to see you posting again.
Thanks....:blush:

[ShallowsNole]

Dearest IBD...

You are amazing. You and your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers...dealing with the "business" part of losing loved ones is a really tough time. :(

[Cheering472]

Oh goodness. Words can't express my sympathy for your loss. I can only begin to imagine your pain and sorrow. God is with you IBD along with our thoughts and prayers. Please come here often and let everyone know how your family is. God bless sweet girl.

[seagrovelover]

Oh my gosh I just read this for the first time......IBD I am so sorry that your family had to go through such a horrible loss. Please except my heartfelt condolences , I am sending prayers, peace and love your way.

[SoWalSally]

Walton mourns losses in business community
By Deborah Wheeler

Tuesday morning, as Harry Millsaps and other Realtors sat around a table sipping their morning coffee, the talk was somber.
As members of the Emerald Coast Association of Realtors, the group was discussing what they could do for two of their own who died suddenly and tragically three days before Christmas in a plane crash.
Millsaps knew both Deborah Irby and Roxanne Costello, who were on the plane that went down in a remote area of Washington County on Dec. 22. The women were established Realtors and brokers who owned their own firms in South Walton. Also on the plane were Deborah’s mother, Wanda Irby, Roxanne’s husband Barry DeLong, and pilot John Johnson of Fort Walton Beach. They were flying to the Bahamas for the holidays. All onboard the twin-engine Cessna were killed in the crash.
Thunderstorms passed through Destin around the time of the scheduled 8:30 a.m. take off from Destin Airport.
Tyndall’s Public Information Office confirms they were in contact with the plane shortly before its disappearance from their radar and advised Bay County Sheriff’s Office of the occurrence.
People in the crash area said the area was experiencing heavy rains and thunderstorms at the time.
The wreckage was found near Highway 77, just north of the Bay County Line.
Johnson reportedly was an experienced pilot and FAA-accredited flight examiner.
Costello owned and operated Seashore Properties of the Emerald Coast, located in Grayton Beach. In the area for approximately six years, she was named Business Woman of the Year for 2003 and 2004.
Pam Holloway had been a neighbor of the DeLongs for the past three years and had known them for six years.
“They were one of the first couples we got to know when we started coming here,” said Holloway. “They were wonderful people. Barry grew vegetables in his back yard and he gave the kids popsicles. Roxanne was a wonderful, spiritual person. She made you feel good just being around her. She always had a happy glow and a way about her that was uplifting. We’re all very sad for the loss of our dear friends. We loved them.”
Neighbors of the DeLongs gathered at Santa Rosa Beach Club Wednesday afternoon to share memories of their neighbors.
Irby owned and operated Irby Realty Group in Santa Rosa Beach. Her sister, Rebecca Grice, said Deborah was flying to the Bahamas to meet her husband of 18 months, Harry Ivy. They had built a home there and were looking forward to spending their first Christmas in it together.
“I have a quadruple loss,” said Grice. “Deborah and Roxanne were very close. After Deborah and Harry married in the Bahamas, Roxanne and Barry went with them on their Mediterranean honeymoon cruise. On the cruise, Roxanne and Barry were married. The couples did a lot together.

[Franny]

Hey everyone,

I have not been on the board in days. Wow, how tiring this all is. I have had loads of family around (they are all gone know) and now it is down to the business part of all of this. :shock: All I can say is that each and everyone of you should take the time and money to have a detailed will and make sure you have plenty of life insurance. It sure makes things easier.

I am sorry I missed the people I missed on New Years Eve, my brother in law wanted everyone at his house for the new year. We had as good of a time that we could and drank wayyyyyyyy too much champagne!:clap_1:

Thanks to all of you who sent flowers, cards, goodies, and other items.;-) It was all very appreciated....

I love you guys!!!!



Love you sooo much!:wub:

[Gypsea]

IBD ~ I am so sorry to read of your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I am thankful that you are surrounded by such great friends.

[katie blue]

Hi Rebecca-
I was so shocked to visit the site and see this post. Sending you warm hugs and my sincerest condolences. I had a nice phone chat with your mom Wanda a few months back, and she was such a lovely woman. Stay strong and know that they stay with us always. See you around sometime soon I hope...Kate

[mleigh]

I am in deep shock still, this evening, after visiting the Seashore Property office today to see Roxanne. I had spoken to her just before she left the week of the accident to confirm our getting together this week to stop in to see her as we discussed on the phone. My prayers and thoughts are with you all! My sincere sympathy and condolences. IBD family as well.

*Some People come into our Lives and quickly go, but some leave footprints in our hearts and we will never be the same again.

[InletBchDweller]

I just wanted to say that I love all you guys.:wub: :wub: :wub:

TOmmorow will be a month and I am not wanting to sleep.....I have saved and have just read all the pm's that people sent me. Wonderful people like you, friends and strangers, just dont know how much you have touched me and my family.
One thing my sister would aways tease me about was SoWal. She thought I was wasting time when I could be working. I am sure she is looking down and is seeing that yall are all wonderful human beings and that she was wrong..;-)


Thanks again.........:wub:

[Miss Kitty]

:wub: ...thanks for all the lessons you have taught me. I grinned at the thought of your sis smiling down on you sowalling!!! :D ...here's one for her!

[Beachbummett]

:wub: ...thanks for all the lessons you have taught me. I grinned at the thought of your sis smiling down on you sowalling!!! :D ...here's one for her!

and here's another...:wub: :biggrin:

[Mango]

It was good to see you this week IBD. :wub:

[Paula]

IBD: You've really shown us how beautifully one can handle oneself throughout such a sad loss -- in such an appreciative way toward everyone. Pretty amazing. :wub:

[Gypsea]

I enjoyed spending time with you this week IBD. You are an inspiration.:wub:

[30A Skunkape]

Rapunz and I are still keeping you and your family in our thoughts IBD:D

[Tootsie]

Oh, IBD! we all love you and your family! I'm so glad you are feeling our need to hear from you and be with you now and for as long as you need us... :wub:

[Beachmom]

Thinking of you today...we :wub: you!

[gotothebeachmom]

Sending a big ol' hug, from me to you. :wub:

[DD]

:wub: :wub: :wub:

[Allifunn]

I just wanted to say that I love all you guys.:wub: :wub: :wub:

TOmmorow will be a month and I am not wanting to sleep.....I have saved and have just read all the pm's that people sent me. Wonderful people like you, friends and strangers, just dont know how much you have touched me and my family.
One thing my sister would aways tease me about was SoWal. She thought I was wasting time when I could be working. I am sure she is looking down and is seeing that yall are all wonderful human beings and that she was wrong..;-)


Thanks again.........:wub::wub: :wub: :wub: love you!!!!

[drunkkenartist]

Ditto to all the above :biggrin: .

It seems like it was a million years ago and yet all at once like it just happened yesterday. Cliche but true.
In my mind, they are still on vacation and we will all get to see them again soon.:wub:

...and one day, we will.:D

Bless you all!

Kenny

[Franny]

:wub: :wub: :wub: love you!!!!

:wub:

[goodwitch58]

IBD, my thoughts were with you and your family yesterday.

[Beach Runner]

So sorry, IBD. You will be on my prayer list.

[seacrestkristi]

Oh, IBD, I can't even imagine.:cry::cry::cry: I'm so so so very sorry. Me and mine will be keeping you and yours in our thoughts and prayers. I :wub::wub::wub:YOU!

[TooFarTampa]

IBD, my thoughts were with you and your family yesterday.

You were on my mind too IBD. :wave: :wub:

[InletBchDweller]

:wub: Thanks guys!!! As usual all the calls and PM's were a blessing....reminding me again how SoWal literally changed my life on the day that my life changed.....:wub:

[NoHall]

I didn't know you then, but I do now...love, hugs, prayers...

[Minnie]

I am sure all of you know this but it is worth reminding and sharing for those that don't. Since the death of my Father in June IBD has been one of my best support systems. Not until a week or so ago did I realize that if anyone should need support during the holiday season, it was her, not me.

As I am sure those that know her personally already know, she is one heck of a gull. That during a time when she is in the mist of memories that no person ever wants to experience, she is reaching out and helping others, such as me.

I feel truly blessed to have her as a cyber friend and hopefully soon she and I are going to be able to sit down over lunch and share the happy memories of our lost ones and probably a few tears too.

So IBD, this toast is to you. http://mickeysretreat.bravepages.com/images/smilies/new1003/more/toast.gif

I wish you sunshine on your path and storms to season your journey. I wish you peace in the world in which you live and in the smallest corner of your heart where truth is kept... More I cannot wish you except perhaps love to make all the rest worthwhile. Robert A. Ward

[Allifunn]

You KNOW I have been thinking of you girlfriend!:wub:
Are you back in SoWal?

[organicmama]

Adding my love and prayers sent to IBD and her loved ones. God Bless.

[DD]

I thought about you all day yesterday, dear. I got your sweet message too. :wub:

[ThirtyAGal]

:wub:God bless you and your family this season. I hope some of your memories bring smiles instead of tears. I will be praying for comfort and strength for all of you.

[kathydwells]

IBD and family, you have all been in my thoughts this Holiday Season. I continue to wish for you peace and comfort. :wub:

[iwishiwasthere]

Thinking of you and your family this week. Prayers and hugs sent your way.

[supermom26.2]

Blessings to your family and our prayers are with you too.

[InletBchDweller]

:blush:
I am back home, safe and sound.
I love you all.
Minnie, cant wait to meet you either. Hang in there.......:wave:


Life is what you make it.....

[bluemtnfriend]

IBD, know that this has been a hard week for youl I hope time has healed the hurt and that your memories are sweet. I buried my oldest friend this week. I'm trying to tell myself that I was lucky to have such a good friend for 45 years, but we grew up together, had our first child 6 weeks apart.and were going to be hell on wheels as we got older. I keep thinking I need to call her and tell her something funny, it has just got to get better than this.

[Franny]

Thinking of you all.:wub:

[seacrestkristi]

IBD, know that this has been a hard week for youl I hope time has healed the hurt and that your memories are sweet. I buried my oldest friend this week. I'm trying to tell myself that I was lucky to have such a good friend for 45 years, but we grew up together, had our first child 6 weeks apart.and were going to be hell on wheels as we got older. I keep thinking I need to call her and tell her something funny, it has just got to get better than this.
So sorry about your gullfriend, BMF. I can relate to what you're saying about wantin' to tell her fuNNe stuff. I did the same thing with my Dad about fuNNe bumper stickers. i think they can hear us in heaven so just tell her the fuNNe stuff anyhow.

[shakennotstirred]

IBD - My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family this holiday season.